Always Editing

Every now and then I go back and read bits of Always Standing - I tend to find errors. Here is a recent one:

From: Spoiled By J
Said: I found it both flattering and revealing.
(When talking about him finding and reading my blog.)
Should be: I found it both flattering and relieving.

That Gotye Song

I know that I just posted about THIS recently, but the song really is everywhere right now. This video is a very accurate representation of what happens when the song comes on in the car. It is funny because it is true. The clip is strange because at times I found it slow and awkward and that it didn't hold my attention and then it has shinning moments when I laughed out loud and chuckled afterwards about. What do you think?

Quote Of The Day

---- from Twitter

This made me think of my mom:

"It's not 'box wine'...... it's Cardboardeaux."

SC - Matching

There was only three of us for Salad Club today, so I didn't have to make a lot. I decided to match that with a three item salad - a pared down version of the first one I did.

Not A Lot Of Time, Money, Or Ingredients Salad
- Defrost a bag of small shrimp
- English Cucumber
- Avocado
- Dressing: French (Kristen had Italian Herb)

The Sole Lease Holder

Last night I went to go and renew the lease for Rrunuv Bayit. Kristen & Noah are going to be moving out and living together a little further west (in a super sweet loft-style place that I hope they let me help paint!) I haven't fully decided whether I am going to get another roommate or try living on my own for a while. Either way, I decided I would be the only name on the lease. This is the first time ever that I have held a lease on my own! There was always at least one other co-signer. I can remember my first apartment, Glen in Ottawa; there were so many people signed on the lease: Steph, Em, & I were living together so we signed and then I believe our parents did too! A lot has changed in 8 years.

Spoiled By J

I met J very very quickly on eHarmony. He was one of the matches that I messaged the first night I joined and he was the first person I met up with to meet face-to-face. To be ensure that the first date truly was special, I met up with someone else from the online dating site to see if all dates were like that since I was so new to it all. The second date was enjoyable but the chemistry was not there for me. This second guy wanted to meet up again and I had to apologize and say we weren't a good match. J and I then moved quite quickly into 'relationship status' and I stopped being an active participant on eHarmony - basically closing my profile.

J and I had a decent run - for the most part it was a fun three months and a great re-entry into the world of dating after a bit of a hiatus. However, I feel like it gave me a false sense of security and incorrect impressions of the online-dating world.

Thoughts From My First Use Of eHarmony And How The Second Run Is Different:

-- "This is going to be super fast and easy." J and I sent a couple of fun and witty emails, did a bit of arranging over text message to meet up and grabbed dinner as a last minute plan when we both figured out we have an evening free. Now, I am probably over a month into dating again and I have found getting to know guys and arranging dates with them can be tedious. Sometimes the text messaging stage lasts so long and gets so intense/flirty/frequent that it is practically like we are dating before we even meet. I also am busy so maybe that is making it harder to arrange times to meet - but I am always busy usually my social life fits around everything well.

-- "I am going to meet interesting people and do interesting things." This thought is manly based on the idea the dates are creative, fun, outings. Admittedly J and I just grabbed basic pub dinners the first few times we went out but soon after, because his interests and life were so different from mine, I got to do a lot of things I hadn't done before - like go to a hockey game in Toronto, Go Leafs Go! I think I have first-date burnout. I have gotten to visit some nice restaurants that I haven't been to before (and I got taken out in a really sweet car by a guy who sadly never called again) but in general these meetings are not super thrilling. 

-- "The blog is going to help me."  J had found Always Standing prior to us going on our first date - without prompting. This ended up disclosing the ADD, depression, what I look like, etc. upfront. I found it both flattering and revealing. Now, guys either refuse to look me up, even when given the details or they do and then they disappear, presumably turned-off my something that they found online.

-- "Everyone will want to meet and then date me." My first two dates both resulted in being asked out a second time. I proceeded to date one of them and had to politely decline the other. Even beyond that there were people still online who were interested in meet me. I am finding people this time around who are interested in meeting me - though it doesn't feel like a long or impressive list at the moment. However, once they meet me - they do not want to see me again! Some just completely sever conversation, which is so frustrating. Then others send a short message stating that they aren't interested in pursuing things further, which is a method that I prefer, however still can be heart-breaking at times.

It is definitly a good thing that the last thought listed above got challenged. It is not healthy/attractive to go around with that sort of attitude. However, I do wish things were going better. I will post later on about the various theories as to why I don't seem to be making good connections this time around.

There Is Always Hope With Star Wars

I came home the other night and Noah was watching Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope, or in my mind, "Sweet! Is that the first one?" I haven't seen it in so long, and of course it is SO good. I love the 'original three' so much. Someone has made a Gotye 'Somebody That I Used To Know' Parody about the fact that the 'new three' don't really live up to how great the other movies were. (For those who don't know the song or music video for Gotye's 'Somebody That I Used To Know' you can view it HERE. See the amusing Star Wars parody below:

SC - Fish Salad

This is the basic salad that I always like to make, though beyond the spinach and tuna I often change up the other vegetables.

Tuna/Salmon & Spinach Salad
The tomatoes get everything mushy so I do them separately and add right before serving.
- Finely chopped carrot (I bought a little bag)
- English cucumber
- Green Pepper
- Tomatoes
- Spinach
- Top with either canned tuna or salmon (I brought little pouches of both so people could pick.)
- Dressing: French (though Classic Herb also works)