Men And The Phone

He was too busy to call...
"Oh sure, they say they're busy. They say that they didn't have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. Bullshit. With the advent of payphones, cell phones and speed dialing it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don't even mean to. We may try to make you think differently but we men are just like you. We like taking a break from our generally mundane day to talk to someone we like. It makes us happy. And we like to be happy. Just like you. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you." -G.B

He says he will call at a certain time, but doesn't...
"Most guys will say what they think you want to hear at the end of a date or phone call, "I will call you over the weekend" or "I will give you a call tomorrow", rather than say nothing at all. Some guys are lying, some guys really mean it. Here is how you tell the difference: You know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do. Here is something else to think about: Calling when you say you're going to is the very first brick in the house you are building of love and trust. If he can't lay this one stupid brick down, you aren't never gonna have a house, baby. And it's cold outside." -G.B.

If he really likes you, he calls...
"A picture of what you'll never see when you're with a guy who's really into you: You'll never see you staring at your phone willing it to ring. You'll never see you ruining an evening with friends because he forgot to call. You'll never see you hating yourself for calling him when you know you shouldn't have. What you will see is you being treated so well that no phone antics will be necessary, You'll be too busy being adored" -G.B.

The final two points...
"If he's not calling you, it's because you are not on his mind."-G.B.

"You deserve a fucking phone call." 

-Greg Behrendt from 'He's Just Not That Into You'

He's Just Not That Into You

"When it comes to men, 

deal with them as they are, 

not how you'd like them to be." 

I just finished reading this book, by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It was really worth picking up. I'm almost tempted to buy it for every girl I know, even more tempted to buy it for myself. The authors claim that the book and concept is liberating, and that isn't 100% true. I found some of it depressing and upsetting, especially when reflecting on my own past and failed romances. Pretty much everything rang true in the book though and it really made me feel like I was worth love and great relationships. I hope to be stronger and smarter with dating in the future. There were a number of strong, eye-opening points.

From now on, I will stop making excuses for and accepting excuses from guys; stop putting up with and living in a less-then-loving relationship; and won't waste any more of my friend's and my time with crying about, and analysing, hurtful behaviour. If I am doing these things, then the guy has done something that is showing he isn't that interested me and what I care about. If he truly wanted to pursue me or be in a relationship with me, then I should be happy and content with his behavior towards me a vast majority of the time.

Some very basic and very simple truths from the book:
-- He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out
-- It is abuse if he yells at you, publicly humiliates you, or makes you feel fat and unattractive
-- By staying with a guy that isn't perfect for you, you are ensuring you never find one who is
-- Most men do not change and if they do it is only when they met a new women
-- Life is hard enough as it is without choosing someone difficult to share it with

The Best Ride

For excitement, fear, thrills, and fun nothing beats the basic midway ride, The Zipper. The Paris Fair always has it, as does the Ottawa Exhibition, which I visited tonight with some friends. What adds to the fear is knowing how many times the ride has been assembled and dissembled each year, and how far all its pieces travel and who exactly puts it together each time.

In Paris, guys in my high school would just hang around the fair grounds a couple days before it all opened and help set things up. Safety regulations? You're held into the cages by a simple strip of metal. The chance of accident seems greater then in the streamlined amusement park rides, with their many locking safety bars and straps.

The impracticability of The Zipper is also amazing, there is no track to help you know when your going to go upside down or flip, it could happen at anytime and in a number of different ways. I rode it twice and may try to get back to ride it some more this week.

My Creative Family

My little cousin, Carla, shot and directed a music video for the Alexisonfire Rough Hands Music Video Contest. Her older brother, obviously also my cousin, stars in it as the male lead. I can't believe how good he is in it. I also can't believe how good the video is in general. I'm so proud of her! Wow Carla!!

[2017 Update] This post previously contained a link to the music video that is no longer active.

Anna and The Boy Roommate

Anna and The Boy Roommate are pretty much completely moved out. There are still some of their stuff around but they are sleeping and living at their new apartment now. The big move was yesterday. I'm not ready to have them gone yet. Beyond the fact that I have to give up having a guy around who could fix anything; Anna's amazing comforter that I have been sleeping with; and the only phone in the house that ever really worked; I really will have to let go of the fact that I won't be living with two of my really good friends anymore.

I don't know who is going to provide the comic relief with The Boy Roommate gone and Anna is such a great friend I will miss her company so much. I know they are just around the corner, and we will get together lots. It just feels like the house is a little empty and lonely right now and I miss them so much. Time spent with Anna always feels too short. The time she was here before going to France wasn't long enough, the time I spent with her in Paris wasn't long enough, and definitely the time spent living together after she returned wasn't long enough either. I miss her, already.

Great News

My government job got extended until the end of December. I'm really happy since I love it there. I'm going to still take two night courses at Carleton to work towards my degree. We will see what happens for January though, I may go back full time then.

Murphy's Law

Of course the first morning I have my bike back it rains. I ended up having Anna drive me to work. I need to go downtown after work, so I will take a bus home from there. I don't want summer to end, it makes me so sad. Gloomy, cold Fall days really depress me.

Bike's Back

I picked up my bike this afternoon, it had been in the shop getting fixed. The gears now shift as smooth as cutting soft butter, it is a dream to ride. Even if the seat is still a little too low. Everything is going to be so much faster, easier, and cheaper for me now. Too bad it is already starting to smell a bit like Fall.